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It takes just a quick glance, maybe three seconds, for someone to evaluate you when you meet for the first time. In this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.

With every new encounter, you are evaluated and yet another person’s impression of you is formed. These first impression can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, making those first encounters extremely important, for they set the tone for the all the relationships that follows.

So, whether they are in your career or social life, it’s important to know how to create a good first impression. This article provides some useful tips to help you do this.Justify Full

Be on Time

The person you are meeting for the first time is not interested in your “good excuse” for running late. Plan to arrive a few minutes early. And allow flexibility for possible delays in traffic or taking a wrong turn. Arriving early is much better that arriving late, hands down, and is the first step in creating a great first impression.

Be Yourself, Be at Ease

If you are feeling uncomfortable and on edge, this can make the other person ill at ease and that’s a sure way to create the wrong impression. If you are calm and confident, so the other person will feel more at ease, and so have a solid foundation for making that first impression a good one. See our section on relaxation techniques to find out how to calm that adrenaline!

Present Yourself Appropriately

Of course physical appearance matters. The person you are meeting for the first time does not know you and your appearance is usually the first clue he or she has to go on.

But it certainly does not mean you need to look like a model to create a strong and positive first impression. (Unless you are interviewing with your local model agency, of course!)

No. The key to a good impression is to present yourself appropriately.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words, and so the “picture” you first present says much about you to the person you are meeting. Is your appearance saying the right things to help create the right first impression?

Start with the way you dress. What is the appropriate dress for the meeting or occasion? In a business setting, what is the appropriate business attire? Suit, blazer, casual? And ask yourself what the person you'll be meeting is likely to wear - if your contact is in advertising or the music industry, a pinstripe business suit may not strike the right note!

For business and social meetings, appropriate dress also varies between countries and cultures, so it’s something that you should pay particular attention to when in an unfamiliar setting or country. Make sure you know the traditions and norms.

And what about your personal grooming? Clean and tidy appearance is appropriate for most business and social occasions. A good haircut or shave. Clean and tidy clothes. Neat and tidy make up. Make sure your grooming is appropriate and helps make you feel “the part”.

Appropriate dressing and grooming help make a good first impression and also help you feel “the part”, and so feel more calm and confident. Add all of this up and you are well on your way to creating a good first impression.

A Word about Individuality

The good news is you can usually create a good impression without total conformity or losing your individuality. Yes, to make a good first impression you do need to “fit in” to some degree. But it all goes back to being appropriate for the situation. If in a business setting, wear appropriate business attire. If at a formal evening social event, wear appropriate evening attire. And express your individuality appropriately within that context.

A Winning Smile!

“Smile and the world smiles too.”* So there’s nothing like a smile to create a good first impression. A warm and confident smile will put both you and the other person at ease. So smiling is a winner when it comes to great first impressions. But don't go overboard with this - people who take this too far can seem insincere and smarmy, or can be seen to be "lightweights".


Be Open and Confident

When it comes to making the first impression, body language as well as appearance speaks much louder than words.

Use your body language to project appropriate confidence and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile (of course), make eye contact, greet with a firm handshake. All of this will help you project confidence and encourage both you and the other person feel better at ease.

Almost everyone gets a little nervous when meeting someone for the first time, which can lead to nervous habits or sweaty palms. By being aware of your nervous habits, you can try to keep them in check. And controlling a nervous jitter or a nervous laugh will give you confidence and help the other person feel at ease. Again, see our section on relaxation techniques for help with this.

Small Talk Goes a Long Way…

Conversations are based on verbal give and take. It may help you to prepare questions you have for the person you are meeting for the first time beforehand. Or, take a few minutes to learn something about the person you meet for the first time before you get together. For instance, does he play golf? Does she work with a local charitable foundation?

Is there anything that you know of that you have in common with the person you are meeting? If so, this can be a great way to open the conversation and to keep it flowing.

Be Positive

Your attitude shows through in everything you do. Project a positive attitude, even in the face of criticism or in the case of nervousness. Strive to learn from your meeting and to contribute appropriately, maintaining an upbeat manner and a smile.

Be Courteous And Attentive

It goes without saying that good manners and polite, attentive and courteous behavior help make a good first impression. In fact, anything less can ruin the one chance you have at making that first impression. So be on your best behavior!

One modern manner worth mentioning is “turn off your mobile phone”. What first impression will you create if you are already speaking to someone other than the person you are meeting for the first time? Your new acquaintance deserves 100% of your attention. Anything less and you’ll create a less than good first impression.

Key Points

You have just a few seconds to make a good first impression and it’s almost impossible ever to change it. So it’s worth giving each new encounter your best shot. Much of what you need to do to make a good impression is common sense. But with a little extra thought and preparation, you can hone your intuitive style and make every first impression not just good but great.

Scientists can find no failure gene in your DNA! Just imagine, your mind is a goal-seeking, goal-achieving part of you, and it carries out those operations in a perfect, machine-like manner. You can never fail in your efforts to master the power of your mind, so long as you persist. There is absolutely no reason for you to worry about failure!

Here is why. The portion of your mind that we are referring to here has as its sole responsibility seeking out and achieving the goals you direct it to seek out and achieve. That is all it does, day and night. It never rejects or counters any of your directions.

Please do not confuse the goal-seeking, goal-achieving area of your mind with theJustify Full self image. This goal-seeking, goal-achieving area never argues whether your directions are for your good or not. It never moralizes your directives to it. It simply accepts your directions, achieves what you direct, and brings it into your physical world.

You are probably saying to yourself that if this is true why are you getting so many unwanted things in your experience? Surely you did not direct your mind to bring this stuff to you! I would have to agree with you to a point. You probably did not consciously direct your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind to bring a shortage of money, illness or other misfortunes into your life.

However, when was the last time you consciously gave ANY directive to your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind? Do you ever remember doing it? When was the last time you paid conscious attention to what you are consistently thinking all day and all night? Have you ever done such analysis?

If you are like I was and like most people are, you probably have never paid much attention to what you are thinking on a daily basis over an extended period of time. Your mind is likely running on automatic pilot, with the exception of the few times you are shaken into awareness to deal with some urgent matter.

What is your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind doing when you leave your mind to run on automatic pilot? Well in the absence of your consciously giving it goals (directions), it simply analyzes its subconscious surroundings for the most emotionally charged goals it has achieved for you before (whether wanted or unwanted).

Whether you previously gave conscious directives to it to materialize those goals is of no importance to it. It selects them, based on your state of being and delivers the associated conditions to you. There may be hundreds or even thousands of those pre-set conditions in your subconscious mind awaiting a signal to join forces with the goal-seeking, goal-achieving portion of your mind to produce the experiences with which they are associated.

The point of all of this is that you are now in possession of the only fool-proof, fail-safe, and perfect success system in existence, your goal-seeking, goal-achieving mind! Your task, if you choose to accept it, is to clearly communicate to it what you desire to experience.

This I know for sure. You are the most miraculous of all living beings on earth. You are the owner of a mind that is so stupendous, that as you truly begin mastering your mind power and consciously using it, there is no dream that you can dream that you cannot achieve.

If a few men and women of vision had not acted on their dreams, we would still be living in caves, believing that the world is flat. If a few brave souls had not been willing to put their lives on the line for their dreams we wouldn’t have landed men on the moon and general air travel would have been left in the dream bubble. But a few broke the mold of precedence; a few went beyond boundaries. Many didn’t live to see their dreams become reality. They struggled and failed on numerous attempts but others of similar vision built on those dreams and eventually achieved the goal.Yet, all of us have dreams but few of us have acted on them. The minute we get the dream, is the minute we start building up great walls of opposition. We convince ourselves that our dreams are impossibilities, nonsensical, not worthy of action; basically we put our selves down and fall asleep again. Sometimes we are so afraid of failure and feeling foolish that we don’t act on our dreams. Does that sound familiar?What would it take for us to begin to dream beyond our conventional boundaries? Firstly, who set the boundaries? Who says it can’t be done? Working a dream is like starting a new business. Do the homework. Find out all you can about your project and collect the data objectively and truthfully. Be willing to let go of the things that don’t work and embrace new ideas that might surface to sustain your dreams, even if they don’t come in the packages which you expected. Great ideas come with linkages and supports if you let go of how you think it has to happen and allow the dream itself, its own freedom to grow. The strength of your conviction will attract the key support links effortlessly. Begin to feel the validity of the dream and let go of the brain-based focus. Be willing to be in free-fall; you don’t have to know what will happen next.Begin to sense rather than see. Dreams come to us from a part of our being not connected with physical reality and therefore must be nurtured from those same dimensions. Fear of the unknown is normal for most of us but helps us to hone our spiritual aptitudes. We become adepts only as we are tested and successfully pass the tests, which incidentally, we have set for ourselves.Playfulness is an invaluable element of dreaming. Dreams usually don’t come until we are in a relaxed playful mode anyway. Likewise solutions tend to pop into our minds when we have given up our brain-based focus to force an answer. The other element of playfulness which nurtures dreams is joy. Joy carries with it a vibration of ‘possibilities’ and as we already know the universe is quick to respond. So what else is there? Believe in yourself! Believe in your dreams! Your dream is like a new born infant and will require as much nurturing, attention and cultivation. Be willing to stand up for your dream and don’t expect others to carry it for you – it is not their baby. You are its parent and it is from you that it requires the love. YES, Love your dreams into reality!

Every man who wants to develop his personality also wants to become popular. Man’s life is a burden without popularity. If we leave aside certain action, there is not much difference between a man and an animal. Everybody can be popular if he/you takes care of these few enlisted personality development tips-
If you want to progress in life than honestly analyze the traits of your character.
Do not laugh at people when they are in difficulty or trouble other wise you will loose your personality in a moment.
This is a great way to develop your personality by listening everyone politely, even if their ideas are baseless or not of your interest.
During conversation do not keep talking yourself too much.
When ever somebody brings any gift for you, don’t forget to praise it. It does not matter even if you were expecting something else.
Make other feel that you love them.
Keep your moral high in case of defeat and be more polite on being victorious.
Solve your problems in a creative way. Try your best not to let these spoil your relations with your friends.
Enlist your bad habits and try to get rid of them.
We should not uplift our standard of living but also help others to do so. Try to remove the feeling of inferiority in others by loving them and by keeping good behavior towards them.
Be careful of what your say about others because others will say the same thing about us at different times and at different places and in this way form a public opinion about us.
Some people often have a favorite sentence which they repeat frequently. We should try and get rid and get rid of such a habit.
Independence increases our good qualities and personality and slavery bad qualities.
Independent thinking and freedom to work is the only source of progress and welfare.
Love is the greatest magic in this world. You can do every thing with help of love. Develop this art to improve your personality.
Positive attitude is of great importance in our personality. No body like people who have narrowed out look. In life only that person is considered well behaved who has positive and healthy bend of mind.
The real beauty of man lies not in his physical appearance but in his work and good qualities.
That is why it is important that we improve mental outlook to develop our personality.
Every individual should develop the ability to adjust with others, because basically man is a social animal, so one can not survive by living alone.
Some people keep repeating a particular statement and it becomes a part of their nature. At the most you may repeat a statement twice but it you do it more than that it leaves a bad impact.

Lesson Number 1:

A crow was sitting on a tree, doing nothing all day.

A small rabbit saw the crow, and asked him, "Can I also sit like you

and do nothing all day long?

The crow answered: "Sure, why not."

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow, and rested.

All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Management Learning:


To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

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Lesson Number 2:

A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to

the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy.

"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the

bull."They're packed with nutrients." The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Management Learning:

* might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

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Lesson Number 3:

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, it began to realize how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him!

Management Learning:
1) Not everyone who drops * on you is your enemy.

2) Not everyone who gets you out of * is your friend.

3) And when you're in deep *, keep your mouth shut!

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Lesson Number 4:

The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked. As they went along, they passed some people who remarked "it was a shame the old man was walking and the boy was riding". The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.

Later, they passed some e people that remarked, "What a shame, he makes that little boy walk." They decided they both would walk! Soon they passed some more people who thought they were stupid to walk when they had a decent donkey to ride. So the both rode the donkey! Now they passed some people that shamed them by saying "how awful to put such a load on a poor donkey". The boy and man said they were probably right so they decided to carry the donkey.

As they crossed a bridge, they lost their grip on the animal and he fell into the river and drowned.

Management Learning:

If you try to please everyone, you will eventually lose your *.

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Lesson Number 5:

Once PVNR (PV Narasimha Rao), L.K.Advani and Laloo Prasad Yadav were travelling in an autorickshaw. They met with an accident and all three of them died. Yama was waiting for this moment at the doorstep of death.He asks PVNR and Advani to go to HEAVEN. But, for Laloo, Yama had already decided that he should be sent to *.

Laloo is not at all happy with this decision. He asks Yama as to why this discrimination is being made. All the three of them had served the public.

Similarly, all took bribes, all misused public positions, etc. Then why the differential treatment?

He felt that there should be a formal test or an objective evaluation before a decision is made; and should not be just based on opinion or pre conceived notions.

Yama agrees to this and asks all the three of them to appear for an English test.

PVNR is asked to spell " INDIA" and he does it correctly.

Advani is asked to spell "ENGLAND" and he too passes.

It is Laloo's turn and he is asked to spell " CZECHOSLOVAKIA" .

Laloo protests that he doesn't know English. He says this is not fair

and that he was given a tough question and thus forced to fail with false intent.

Yama then agrees to conduct a written test in Hindi (to give another chance assuming that Laloo should at least feel that Hindi would provide an equal platform for all three).

PVNR is asked to write "KUTTA BOLA BHOW BHOW".

He writes it easily and passes. Advani is asked to write "BILLY BOLI

MYAUN MYAUN". He too passes.

Laloo is asked to write "BANDAR BOLA GURRRRRR.... ."Tough one. He fails again. Laloo is extremely unhappy.

Having been a student of history (which the other two weren't), he now requested for all the 3 to be subjected to a test in history.

Yama says 'OK', but this would be the last chance; and that he would not take any more tests.

PVNR is asked: "When did India get Independence? ".

He replied "1947" and passed.

Advani is asked "How many people died during the independence struggle?".

He gets nervous. Yama asked him to choose from 3 options: 100,000 or 200,000 or 300,000. Advani catches it and says 200,000 and asses.

It's Laloo's turn now. Yama asks him to give the Name and Address of

each of the 200,000 who died in the struggle. Laloo accepts defeat and agrees to go to *.

Management Lesson:


"IF YOUR MANAGEMENT HAS DECIDED TO FIX YOU, THERE IS NO ESCAPE"

Group Discussion or GD as is commonly referred to, is akin to a football game, where one has to shine himself/herself as well as take the team along.

A Group Discussion at a B-School is normally a formal discussion involving ten to 12 participants in a group. They are given a topic. After about 3-4 minutes, during which time they (the participants) collect their thoughts, the group is asked to discuss the topic for 20 to 25 minutes. B-Schools use the GD process to assess a candidate's personality traits.

Leadership : The first and foremost quality a candidate should exhibit is leadership qualities in a group discussion.

1. In a group discussion, the candidate should seize the initiative right from the word go. The key is to be well read on the current socio-political scenario and the economic conditions.

2. In a group discussion, the candidate has to maintain a pleasing body-language throughout the group-discussion. Habits like playing with pen or shuffling in the seat or making any kind of noise or crossing arms or legs are a strict no-no.

3. In a group discussion when the time is given to prepare for the topic, the candidate should make sure that he/she makes enough points to last for the entire duration even if some of his ideas are taken up by other candidates.

4. In a group discussion, the candidate should maintain the lead seized by taking on the initiative. Many a times the contestants initiate the discussion only to lose their fizz next. Either they do not have much to speak after a few minutes or they take to mere coordination. Both the situations should be avoided. Ideally, the initiator should be able to provide leads to the discussion rather than being a mere facilitator.

5. If some candidate wants to contribute something to the discussion but is not getting a chance, try to involve him in the discussion. On the other hand, if a candidate is unwilling to speak do not push him because it would appear as if you are insulting him/her.

6. At the same time try to inspire the group for some out of the box solution. However, be sure of the logical culmination of such solution.

Communication Skills

1. In a group discussion, the power of expressions is at test. In a group discussion, a candidate has to talk effectively so that he is able to convey his thoughts and convince others about them. For convincing, one has to speak effectively. One can be pleasant and yet effectively put forth his view points. Remember you are Not expected to know each and every thing about each and every topic. At the same time, the candidate has to create an impact by effective presentation of his knowledge of the subject. A candidate who is successful in holding the attention of the audience creates a positive impact.

2. You should have ability to listen as well as. Do not put your point as if you are interrupting somebody. First be sure, what you want to say, bring a coherency in your ideas and then proceed. While putting your ideas, you should appear to continue the discussion and do not attempt to bring a disjuncture in a group discussion. If you attempt at one then be sure to carry that thought to a logical culmination.

3. In a group discussion, make sure that you are not taking up all the time by stammering or by taking up long pauses. One it creates bad impression and shows lack of confidence and secondly, the moment you do so, the lead may be taken up by some other candidate.

4. You should address the group as a whole and not appear to be looking to some particular person.

5. Do not be loud as if appear to scream. At the same time, be loud enough so that everybody hears you clearly.

6. Do not try to put a fake accent. Be your normal self. Putting up accent often leads to stammering.

7. Be clear about your ideas before you speak and do not lie about facts and figures.

8. It is not a war so avoid making personal remarks and overtly aggressive. At the same time be positive and try to seize initiative.

Emotional Quotient

1. In a group discussion, a candidate must remember to keep his emotions under check. On any given topic, emotions should be kept strictly under check. For e.g. should India go to war with Pakistan? Alternatively, how should Indian Cricket team be dealt with? On topics like these, a balanced view backed up with rationale should be taken rather than being charged up emotionally. These types of questions or topics are designed to test the emotional quotient of the candidate.

2. The candidate must leave scope for flexibility. If at the last moment, some other candidate come up with a very strong point contradicting your stand then you will be in a fix. So, leave little room for maneuvering.

3. At the same time try to take, some stand and do not appear to vacillate. This shows that the candidate is lacking in character to take decision.

Preparedness

1. The candidate must start preparing for group-discussion, just after the written examination. Do not wait till the call-letter. You may not get adequate time. It important to concentrate on subjects of your graduation as well as general knowledge and general awareness. Hence, the prime need for thorough preparation. Remember, the competition is very tough.

2. It may so happen that you are called for interviews and group discussions from three or four organizations but are not selected by any. The reason obviously lies in your not being well-prepared.

3. In a group discussion, you may be given a topic and asked to form an opinion on it. Alternatively, in a case study GD, students have to read a case study and suggest ways and means to solve the issue. For this you should have a good general knowledge, you need to be aware of the current affairs, should regularly read newspapers and magazines. Your group behaviour and communication skills are on test, i.e. how you convince the others and how clearly you are able to express your point of view. You should be articulate, generate ideas, avoid being repetitive, should give others to speak, and take a position on a given subject. During the course of the GD this stand can even be changed, giving the impression that you are open to accommodate others' viewpoints.

How To Overcome Stage Fright

Have you ever been asked to speak up in front of an audience and felt your throat go dry and your hands go cold? A funny lump in your throat makes speaking difficult and you feel giddy and slightly nauseous. You wish you were anywhere in the world but there. You are experiencing stage fright- something that almost all of us have gone through at sometime or the other. But you can take heart because you are in good company - many of the top performers in the world get stage fright !

Stage fright can be defined as performance related anxiety. It is the fear that affects a person when about to face an audience. The symptoms can vary- they include a dry mouth, a tight throat, sweaty cold hands, nausea, rapid pulse, shaky knees and trembling lips.

Actually, stage fright isn`t the most accurate term because in fact, most of the fear occurs before you step on-stage. Once you`re up there, it usually goes away. Before we are about to appear on stage, thoughts like `am I looking alright?`, what if I forget my lines?" what if I stammer on stage?" usually make us nervous . But often, once we are on stage these feelings go away and we are able to perform well. However, this does not always happen to all of us and there many ways in which we can tackle stage fright.

To begin with, we must first change our opinion about audiences. Most of the time we tend to think that those watching our performances are our worst critics. But that is quite the opposite really- most of them want you to succeed and most of them are glad that they are not the ones up there speaking.

  1. Once you are up on stage to perform or speak try to pick out the most responsive listeners as soon as you can. They are the easiest to find because these are the ones that are listening attentively and alert. Their supportive non verbal communication can be an immense boost for you. Look at them frequently and speak as if you were talking to them.

  2. If possible involve the audience when you can. You can make it an interactive session by asking them to questions or join you .

  3. Practice thoroughly before hand so that at least your opening sentences come automatically even if you are nervous.

  4. Dress smartly and be aware that you are looking your best. It will boost your confidence immensely.

  5. Think of the audience as a group of friends you are chatting with.

  6. Use your normal accent and diction; a fake accent may make you nervous and flustered.

  7. Memorize the points you have to speak about thoroughly so that even if you forget the lines you can expand and speak on your own.

  8. Before you step on stage you can try relaxation techniques like listening to soft music or breathing deeply.

  9. Don`t hold your notes in your hnads- the audience can see them shake. Instead use small cards.

  10. If you are trembling, lean on a table or lectern or shift legs and move about a little. Also do learn to use eye contact with the audience. It will make you feel less isolated.

Most of all, remember that no matter how hard it may seem, nobody ever died from stage fright. But, according to surveys, many people would rather die than give a speech! You may never overcome stage fright completely but you can certainly learn to control it.

The most commonly used tools for the selection process is the personal interview. An interview is a conversation with a purpose between two persons or groups of persons. They are done not only for the purpose of recruitment or selection for a post, but also to gather information from someone important.
Even through it is a two-way traffic, it is mostly seen that the employed is the one who asks questions and the interviewee is supposed to reply. Different purposes of a personal interview are – to rate a candidate for his physical appearance, education achievement and qualification, level of intelligence, background, interests and aptitude, There are different types of interviews, like:

1. Informal Interview: This is the type of interview that is conducted in an informal setting. The interview can be held at the residence of the managing director for the post of a legal consultant. Similarly, many senior level job assignments are finalized during dinner at some hotel or restaurant.
2. Formal interview: This is the interview that is conducted most commonly for recruitment of personnel. In such interviews the candidate is called for an interview at a particular location and time. The candidate is required to answer questions asked, based on the outcome of which he is rated for selection.
3. Patterned Interview: To maintain a uniform approach there are few interviews where a set pattern of questions are asked. In such patterned interview the choice of person conducting the interview is restricted and the selection criteria are also limited within a set frame.
4. Depth Interview: In such a interview, questions are based upon a specific area of the interviewee’s interest. In a depth interview the person has to answer in detail. The academic competence and knowledge is tested thoroughly in such type of interviews.
5. Stress Interview: For the selection of supervisor and executive positions, it is of equal importance to judge the suitability of individual competence based on stress endurance along with knowledge and intelligence. Therefore a candidate is required to appear for the stress interview. In such and interview a person is required to respond to a tress situation and the assessment is done on the basis of the response.
6. Group Interview: When we are required to perform a task in a group the selection is done in a group interview and the candidate along with a group is asked to solve a particular problem. The performance and behavior is, however, assessed and rated individually.
7. Panel Interview: For a senior level position selection, a panel of experts selects the candidate.

Personality and behavior traits are very important for performing well in interviews. Interviews, at times, become a hurdle between success and failure for persons just out of college. You have to present your competence for a particular job within a short period of fifteen to forty five minutes. The candidate is assessed for his behaviour, mannerism, attitude, IQ, stress enduring, capability, general awareness, knowledge of the subjects studied and mental frame of mind to take up the position for which he/she has applied. For a young student it is important that he prepares well for crossing this hurdle. He must be ready for the competitive written examinations as well as for the face to face interview

Listed below are a few interview do nots and usual reasons for failure in interviews that every candidate should keep in mind:

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The candidate should not lack self-confidence or appear shaky.
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The halo-effect of the candidate should be impressive to the interviewing board.
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Poor communication skills are an absolute put-off.
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Body language must not reflect negativity.
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The candidate must not lack the relevant subject knowledge.
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There is a difference between self confidence and over confidence. Even if the expectation level of the candidate is high, he should not exhibit arrogance.
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The candidate’s background and family history are important.
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The candidate must have reasonable amount of Knowledge about the company and the industry in which he has applied for employment.
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The candidate must not be improperly dressed or lack a sense of hygiene.
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If the interview board is harsh, the candidate must not lose his or her cool during the interview.
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The candidate must give a focused reply.
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Also, at times, the number of candidates is very large and board members are unable to give sufficient time to each candidate for answering. Thus, answers should be as precise as possible.

10 Simple rules of Interview

Rule I-Behave as you are: A person facing an interview is generally nervous and does not behave as his or her normal self. He tries to follow the set guidelines that he has been told and in the process becomes very stiff and unnatural. Do not act, be yourself.

Rule II-Reach the interview site well before time: The early arrival at the interview venue will give you time to understand the office culture, the local etiquette and the expectation of the office and a chance to adapt to the particular environment. Reaching in advance also gives you the time to make yourself comfortable and more presentable by giving you time to freshen up. The settling time will help you to handle difficult situation properly.

Rule III -Try to know the company: The interview board expects you to know what the company is doing and what the industry norms the company is in are. Prepare from all sources such as the internet, company brouchers and other sources, if any. Try to find out the company’s area of operation and expansion /diversification plans for which they are recruiting people.

Rule IV-Be focused: The purpose of your appearing for the interview is that you are looking for a job. The questions asked by the board will at times derail your prepared answers and will take you to a different direction. Try to be focused about your strength areas and the requirements of the company concerned. Try to be as short and straight as possible while dealing with a controversial issue.

Rule V-Behave as if you are already in the job: When a person applies for the job of a front desk manager, the interview board will like to see him in that pretext and would judge him keeping that person in the mould of a manager. If he starts feeling and behaving like a manager, half the work is done.

Rule VI-Be genuine and honest: Never lie to the board members. It is very easy for them to judge the truth or falsity of any statement or claim. Besides, everyone would like to reward your honesty.

Rule VII-Never answer question about which you are not sure: If you are honest in staying that you do not know the answer, people will appreciate it more than if you guess something absurd.

Rule VIII-Wish all members before and after the interview: It has been noticed that many candidates do not feel it necessary to wish the members and many others skip it due to nervousness. It does not give a good first impression of the candidate if he does not wish the board members.

Rule IX-Mind your body language: It is extremely important to mind your body language in the interview as you meticulously plan the words you utter.

Rule X-Anticipate the probable questions:

When we are to appear for an interview we do have a clue as to what questions the board will ask. Say, a person has an education gap of two years mentioned in his CV. The board would like to know what the candidate was doing during that period. Similarly, a housewife applying for a teacher’s post will in all probability be asked about her routine for the day. Well-prepared answers for irritating questions will help you fare better in the interview.

Do you want to care more about your achievements? Be able to chase those dreams of yours? In other words, do you want to become more ambitious? If so, this is the article for you.

Steps


1.If you have little self confidence and self esteem, work on it. It's very tricky to be ambitious if you can't even believe in yourself. Realise that you are you, and since you're never going to be anyone else, you may as well learn to love yourself. You're unique, and you have the freedom to make your own decisions. You can work hard and become whatever you want. Believe in yourself, and learn to love yourself. Figure out what you're good at, and make sure you make other people see these too.

2.Once your self esteem is thriving, think about your goals and values. Everybody has goals, whether it be improving at sport or becoming a biologist. Think: What are you good at? Do you want to bring that out of you? What do you want to do in life? Are you willing to work for it? How can you improve at everything you do? Decide what you want to do. Study and become a doctor? Or maybe follow your natural talent and become a singer? Don't let anyone make the decision for you.

3.Think about how you can improve, now that you know what you want to do. Are you going to work harder at school, so you can get into medicine and become that doctor? Or are you going to practice all day and enter competitions to become that singer?

4.Begin to work on improving and chasing your dreams. It's okay to be a little competitive and set challenging goals for yourself. Always dedicate some time to what you want to do-and never give up because things aren't going your way.
Keep that competitiveness friendly-nobody likes a competitive and nasty person.

Don't beat yourself up because you don't quite achieve what you wanted.

Do not be too ambitious. This will harm your social life.Balance out your work and personal life. If you work too much, you may get stressed. If your work suffers, you risk losing your job.

Warnings

•Some people may call you a workaholic. Don't believe them. Keep up with your social life, but keep chasing your dreams, and brush off those mean comments.

When you are angry, worried or afraid, your blood pressure and heart beat may increase dramatically and your activities are more likely to go into sperm and your pallets tend to clump together and clog up your blood vessels, says Dr, Dean Ornish.

More you concentrate on your fear on worry, the more harm you do to your body. Maintaining a negative mental attitude has always been know to produce negative physical conditions. We know that the people who maintain a positive mental attitude rarely get sick.

Negative thinking causes problems, positive thinking causes solution. Negative thinking provides a climate in which health problems can develop/ Positive thinking provides a climate in which good health can be attained and maintained. Negative thinking involves worry. Insecurity, fear, suspicion, hatred, antagonisms, anger despair, mourning, self-doubt, etc.

While positive thinking spreads love, appreciation, optimism, security, courage, cooperation, compassion, generosity, friendliness, patience helpfulness and ambition., negative thinking is being out of step with people and things around you.. Positive thinking is being in step, in harmony with people and things around you. Negative thinning becomes habitual and the stress it causes becomes chronic. Chronic stress is a killer. When you hold negative attitudes for prolonged periods, chemical changes take place in your body.

A stress chemical is released into the blood which inhibits the work of the immune system apparently by confusing and a awakening the system. In these circumstances, health problems start to build up.

But positive feeling about yourself and the work you are doing leads you to be optimistic rather than pessimistic, contributing thereby to your health. This is better for your health and ultimately, your survival. Do right and your health thrives. Do wrong and your health suffers.

Life is not always so closely under our control but our minds are or should be under our control .

Getting Better Than The Best
How the Best of the Best Get Better and Better: Compete only with yourself, demand relentless feedback, and don't forget to celebrate, says this sports psychologist and executive coach.
By Graham Jones

Until 1954, most people believed that a human being was incapable of running a mile in less than four minutes. But that very year, English miler Roger Bannister proved them wrong.

"Doctors and scientists said that breaking the four-minute mile was impossible, that one would die in the attempt," Bannister is reported to have said afterward. "Thus, when I got up from the track after collapsing at the finish line, I figured I was dead." Which goes to show that in sports, as in business, the main obstacle to achieving "the impossible" may be a self-limiting mind-set.

As a sports psychologist, I spent much of my career as a consultant to Olympic and world champions in rowing, swimming, squash, track and field, sailing, trampolining, and judo. Then in 1995, I teamed up with Olympic gold medal swimmer Adrian Moorhouse to start Lane4, a firm that has been bringing the lessons from elite athletic performance to Fortune 500 and FTSE 100 companies, with the help of other world-class athletes such as Greg Searle, Alison Mowbray, and Tom Murray. Sport is not business, of course, but the parallels are striking. In both worlds, elite performers are not born but made. Obviously, star athletes must have some innate, natural ability—coordination, physical flexibility, anatomical capacities—just as successful senior executives need to be able to think strategically and relate to people. But the real key to excellence in both sports and business is not the ability to swim fast or do quantitative analyses quickly in your head; rather, it is mental toughness.

Elite performers in both arenas thrive on pressure; they excel when the heat is turned up. Their rise to the top is the result of very careful planning—of setting and hitting hundreds of small goals. Elite performers use competition to hone their skills, and they reinvent themselves continually to stay ahead of the pack. Finally, whenever they score big wins, top performers take time to celebrate their victories. Let's look at how these behaviors translate to the executive suite.

Love the Pressure

You can't stay at the top if you aren't comfortable in high-stress situations. Indeed, the ability to remain cool under fire is the one trait of elite performers that is most often thought of as inborn. But in fact you can learn to love the pressure—for driving you to perform better than you ever thought you could. To do that, however, you have to first make a choice to devote yourself passionately to self-improvement. Greg Searle, who won an Olympic gold medal in rowing, is often asked whether success was worth the price. He always gives the same reply: "I never made any sacrifices; I made choices."

Managing pressure is a lot easier if you can focus just on your own excellence. Top sports performers don't allow themselves to be distracted by the victories or failures of others. They concentrate on what they can control and forget the rest. They rarely let themselves be sidetracked by events outside a competition. World-class golfer Darren Clarke, for example, helped lead the European team to a Ryder Cup victory in 2006, six weeks after the death of his beloved wife. Elite performers are masters of compartmentalization.

If you want to be a high flier in business, you must be equally inner-focused and self-directed. Consider one executive I'll call Jack. When he was a young man, wrestling was his passion, and he turned down an offer from Harvard to attend a less-prominent undergraduate school that had a better-ranked wrestling team. Later, after earning his MBA, Jack was recruited by a prestigious investment-banking firm, where he eventually rose up to the rank of executive director. Even then, he wasn't driven by any need to impress others. "Don't think for a minute I'm doing this for the status," he once told me. "I'm doing it for myself. This is the stuff I think about in the shower. I'd do it even if I didn't earn a penny."

People who are as self-motivated as Jack or Darren Clarke rarely indulge in self-flagellation. That's not to say that elite performers aren't hard on themselves; they would not have gotten so far without being hard on themselves. But when things go awry, business and sports superstars dust themselves off and move on.

Another thing that helps star performers love the pressure is their ability to switch their involvement in their endeavors on and off. A good way to do this is to have a secondary passion in life. Rower Alison Mowbray, for example, always set time aside to practice the piano, despite her grueling athletic-training schedule. Not only did she win a silver medal in the Olympics in 2004, but she also became an accomplished pianist in the process.

For top executives, the adrenaline rush of the job can be so addictive that it's difficult to break away. But unless you are able to put the day behind you, as elite athletes can, you'll inevitably run the risk of burning out. Many leading businesspeople are passionate about their hobbies; Richard Branson is famous for his hot-air balloon adventures, for instance. However, even small diversions such as bridge or the opera can be remarkably powerful in helping executives tune out and reenergize.

Fixate on the Long Term

Much of star athletes' ability to rebound from defeat comes from an intense focus on long-term goals and aspirations. At the same time, both sports stars and their coaches are keenly aware that the road to long-term success is paved with small achievements.

The trick here is to meticulously plan short-term goals so that performance will peak at major, rather than minor, events. For athletes who participate in Olympic sports, for example, the training and preparation are geared to a four-year cycle. However, these athletes may also be competing in world championships every year. The inevitable tension arising from this complicated timetable requires very careful management.

Adrian Moorhouse's Olympic gold medal success in 1988 is a case in point. His long-term goal was to swim the 100-meter breaststroke in a time of 62 seconds, because he and his coach had calculated four years in advance that this time should be good enough to win the gold. Of course, Adrian thought about winning in the interim, but all of his training and practice was geared toward hitting a time of 62 seconds or better in the Summer Olympics in Seoul. He mapped out specific short-term goals in every area that would affect his performance—strength training, nutrition, mental toughness, technique and more—to make sure he achieved that ultimate goal.

Successful executives often carefully plan out their path to a long-term goal too. I once coached a woman I'll call Deborah, an IT manager who worked for a low-budget airline. Her long-term goal was to become a senior executive in three years. To that end, we identified several performance areas in which she needed to excel—for example, increasing her reputation and influence among executives in other departments of the company and managing complex initiatives. We then identified short-term goals that underpinned achievements in each performance area, such as joining a companywide task force and leading an international project. Together we built a system that closely monitored whether Deborah was achieving the interim goals that would help her fulfill her long-term vision. It paid off. Two months short of her three-year target, Deborah was offered an opportunity to head up the $12 million in-flight business sales unit.

Use the Competition

It's common in track-and-field sports for two elite athletes from different countries to train together. I was at a pre-1996 Olympics training camp for the British team where 100-meter sprinter and then current Olympic champion Linford Christie had a "guest" train with him. His training partner just happened to be Namibian Frankie Fredericks, a silver medalist who had been one of the major threats to Christie's Olympic crown.

World champion rower Tom Murray told me just how competing with the best inspired him to higher achievement. Murray was part of a group of 40 rowers selected to train together with the hopes of gaining one of the 14 spots on the 1996 U.S. Olympic rowing team. Because the final team was chosen only two months before the Atlanta games, this meant that the group of 40 trained together for almost four years.

As Murray recalled, one of the last performance evaluations during the final week leading up to the naming of the Olympic team involved a 2,000-meter test on the rowing machine. The 40 athletes took it in four waves of 10; Murray went in the third wave. During the first two waves, 15 rowers set personal best times, and two recorded times that were faster than anyone in the U.S. had ever gone. The benchmark was immediately raised. Murray realized that he needed to row faster than he'd anticipated. He ended up bettering his previous personal best by three seconds and subsequently made the 1996 team.

If you hope to make it to the very top, like Murray, you too will need to make sure you "train" with the people who will push you the hardest. I once coached an executive I'll call Karl. He declined an opportunity to take a position as the second-in-command at a competitor's firm at twice his current salary. Karl passed up what looked like a standout career opportunity because his current company was deeply committed to coaching him and a cohort of other senior executives on how to become better leaders. Karl had a reputation for burning people out, and he realized that if he moved on, he would continue that pattern of behavior. He remained in the same job because he knew that his coach and peers would help him grow and change his ways.

Smart companies consciously create situations in which their elite performers push one another to levels they would never reach if they were working with less-accomplished colleagues. Talent development programs that bring together a company's stars for intensive training often serve precisely such a purpose. If you want to become a world-class executive, getting into such a program should be one of your first goals.

Reinvent Yourself

It's hard enough getting to the top, but staying there is even harder. You've won that Olympic medal or broken that world record or racked up more wins than anyone in your sport. So how do you motivate yourself to embark on another cycle of building the mental and physical endurance required to win the next time, especially now that you have become the benchmark? That is one of the most difficult challenges facing elite performers, who have to keep reinventing themselves.

Consider trampolinist Sue Shotton. I was working with her when she achieved the number one ranking among women in 1983—that is, she was considered to be the best female trampolinist in the world. Yet she had still not won a world championship.

Shotton was determined to capture that title, and she left nothing to chance. She challenged herself constantly by working with specialists such as physiologists, biomechanists, and elite sports coaches who kept her up to date on cutting-edge thinking. She perfected new moves based on video analysis; she tried different ways of boosting her energy based on nutritional intake. Her efforts to find ways of staying ahead of fiercely ambitious competitors paid off when she won the world championship in 1984, becoming the first British woman ever to hold the title.

Shotton had an insatiable appetite for feedback—a quality I have seen in all the top business performers I have worked with. They have a particularly strong need for instant, in the moment feedback. One top sales and marketing director I worked with told me that he would never have stayed at his current position if the CEO hadn't given him relentless, sometimes brutally honest critiques.

If you're like the elite business performers I have coached, you too are hungry for advice on how to develop and progress. One word of caution, however: While it's good to feel challenged, you need to make sure that any feedback you get is constructive. If criticism doesn't seem helpful at first, probe to see if you can get useful insights about what's behind the negative feedback. Get more specifics. You should be able to see concrete improvements in your performance after getting detailed coaching advice.

Celebrate the Victories

Elite performers know how to party—indeed, they put almost as much effort into their celebrations as they do into their accomplishments. I once worked with a professional golfer who, as he worked his way up the ranks to the top of his sport, would reward himself with something he had prized as a young player—an expensive watch, a fancy car, a new home. These were reminders of his achievements and symbolized to him the hard work, commitment, and dedication he had put into golf for so many years.

Celebration is more than an emotional release. Done effectively, it involves a deep level of analysis and enhanced awareness. The very best performers do not move on before they have scrutinized and understood thoroughly the factors underpinning their success. I saw that discipline in the Welsh rugby team, which I advised from 2000 to 2002. After each game, the team members made a special effort to highlight not only what they did poorly but what they did particularly well. They typically split into small groups to identify and discuss the positive aspects of their performance, so that they could focus on reproducing them in the next game. The exercise was a powerful way to build expertise—and self-confidence. Indeed, the most important function of affirming victory is to provide encouragement for attempts at even tougher stretch goals.

In business, where companies are pressed to meet quarterly earnings and stockholders are impatient, managers must consider the timing and duration of the celebration. Dwelling on success for too long is a distraction and, worse, leads to complacency. Celebrate—but push on. Don't get stuck in the rituals of success. At the end of the day, getting to the next level of performance is what celebrating is really all about.

Smart companies know how to manage the tension between celebrating and looking hungrily for their next achievement. One UK mobile telecom provider puts on an annual ball for its people—spending over £1 million a year. The company hires out well-known venues and brings in pop bands to entertain all the employees. But one factor in the company's success is that its managers know that partying comes number nine on the list of top 10 reasons for wanting to win. Like all elite performers, they also know that partying must be deserved. Without victory, celebrations are meaningless.

The Will to Win

As the spectacle of the Olympics unfolds, it will be easy to be captivated by the flawless performance of elite athletes who make their accomplishments seem almost effortless. Such effortlessness is an illusion, though. Even the most youthful star has typically put in countless years of preparation and has endured repeated failures. But what drives all these elite performers is a fierce desire to compete—and win. Even so, most of those participating in the Olympics this summer will walk away from the games without grabbing a single medal. Those with real mettle will get back into training again. That's what truly separates elite performers from ordinary high achievers. It takes supreme, almost unimaginable grit and courage to get back into the ring and fight to the bitter end. That's what the Olympic athlete does. If you want to be an elite performer in business, that's what you need to do, too.